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Heidi of God is Doing a New Thing wrote about busyness and her “refusal to rest in the Lord”:
“I don’t know how you do all you do!”
Compliments like these cause me to evaluate if I unwittingly parade “all I do” around specifically so I can get accolades from others. I hope not!
The truth is, I don’t do *any* of the many things I do well. (Even now, a part of me wants to list them all for you, so you can know what I mean. The other part of me–the suspicious part of me–thinks this would merely be a perverse attempt to win yet more accolades and encouragement…so I will restrain myself!)
What if my busyness (something that is celebrated and respected in our culture) is just another way to keep from being in the present moment?
What if God wants me to be still and know that he is God?
Be still and know that I am not?…
Read all of “Busyness – My Refusal to Rest in the Lord” HERE.
I felt like I was going to scream because I’d been cooped up in the house with a two kids, had a work deadline breathing down my neck, AND could feel a sinus infection coming on.
The day had started pretty well. That morning, seven year-old Jordan, two year-old Jackson, and I were cuddling on the bed and Jordan said, “Jackson is so cute I could die!”
Contented sigh. Read the rest of this entry »
During the long drag of years before our youngest child went to school, my love for my family and my need to write were in acute conflict. The problem was really that I put two things first. My husband and children came first. So did my writing. Bump.
The conflict—or collision—of work and family summed up in a word: Bump.
Yet we’re often stuck trying to get it all done without compromising family or work. Is it even possible?
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Take some inspiration and advice from The Beautiful Life, who seeks beauty in the ordinary, treasuring each moment.
She offered two great quotes:
“There is a garden in every childhood, an enchanted place where colors are brighter, the air softer, and the morning more fragrant than ever again.” (Elizabeth Lawrence)
“It is never too late to have a happy childhood.” (Tom Robbins)
Click HERE to read several suggestions to slow down and take time to play.
If you’ve got snow on the ground, act now, before the fun melts away!
Photo provided by The Beautiful Life. Used with permission.
Reviewing the clip of an upcoming CBS documentary about hyperparenting, Bad Moms Club claims that it’s really a thing of the past, that most parents these days are no longer tempted to host $4,000 birthday parties, that “bad is the new good.”
The recent Bad Moms Club post writes:
We all have moments of wanting to give our kids everything, we all get confused about what ‘everything’ means, and we all worry and wonder about whether we’re doing enough. We all want the best for them, but most of us do daily literal and figurative cost-benefit analyses of what, exactly, constitutes ‘best’ and most of us – I think – come down on the side of happy-healthy-loved.
I hope so.
Several stood out as appropriate for families seeking to live more focused, simpler, slower lifestyles:
Mega Memory Month January 2010 has returned!
I saw this video long ago but didn’t think to link to it until Lisa at Stretch Mark Mama reminded me of its existence.
Carl Honoré, author of In Praise of Slowness and Under Pressure: Rescuing our Kids from the Culture of Hyper-Parenting, spoke in 2005 on the danger of speed … and the impact of slow.
He does so, by the way, while speaking a mile-a-minute.
Of course, I can’t criticize. Not one bit. I, too, am a mile-a-minute-speaker, living the same irony, concentrating on s-l-o-w-i-n-g my own speech patterns…
Enjoy hearing from a slow-down expert.
(disclaimer/note: Honoré comes from a completely secular perspective, including discussion of slow s[*]x, which I’ve typed in lame code in hopes of reducing unwanted visitors.)
Mega Memory Month January 2010 has returned!
Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty,
who was, and is, and is to come
Sunday we pull out our Advent wreath and begin the season of anticipation, praying, pondering and worshiping the Lord Jesus, who was, and is, and is to come.
I bought an Advent wreath years ago and decorated it simply without realizing the fake plastic berries and cheap gold beading would be with us for years.
But that’s how traditions sometimes tumble into our lives:
We try something out.
And it sticks.
Here’s a picture I snapped last year:
It’s simple and humble, but it’s an integral part of our Christmas traditions.
We tried it, and it stuck.
Traditions … wow, traditions are so wonderful.
In case you haven’t already seen this popular post at Time, pay a visit to Nancy Gibbs’ article “Can These Parents Be Saved: The Growing Backlash Against Overparenting.”
Overparenting goes by other names, like hyperparenting and helicopter parenting. It boils down to being overinvolved in our children’s lives—perhaps to the point of holding them back.
Kids growing up with parents who take these approaches end up smothered, overwhelmed, overprotected, and ill-prepared for their transition to adulthood.
To give you a taste, here are some excerpts and memorable lines taken directly from the article (with bold from me):
- We were so obsessed with our kids’ success that parenting turned into a form of product development.
Some kids need encouragement to do their best and aim high; there are students who settle for average when they are capable of much more.
But some parents take it too far. The pressure is on for their children who are pushed to pursue an ideal. These parents believe it is necessary to push their sons and daughters toward a vision of success. The students must be driven to be the best if they are to compete in today’s world … or so the logic goes.
I read a book two years ago addressing this mindset called No More Push Parenting. An excerpt, “Introducing the Seven Hypes,” can be read here (and an excerpt from the excerpt follows):
Unfortunately, many of today’s parents, many of us, go at this whole parenting thing full tilt. For reasons, some good and some misguided, that we’ll explore, we feel that our child’s ultimate success is all up to us, and that the goal is to win, or to get our kids to win. This is not news to you. You’ve read the articles about test prepping for the best colleges that rivals astronaut training; bar mitzvahs that demand the financial and emotional fortitude of a Broadway producer; and athletic competition so fierce that it has actually been fatal to at least one parent.