Reviewing the clip of an upcoming CBS documentary about hyperparenting, Bad Moms Club claims that it’s really a thing of the past, that most parents these days are no longer tempted to host $4,000 birthday parties, that “bad is the new good.”
The recent Bad Moms Club post writes:
We all have moments of wanting to give our kids everything, we all get confused about what ‘everything’ means, and we all worry and wonder about whether we’re doing enough. We all want the best for them, but most of us do daily literal and figurative cost-benefit analyses of what, exactly, constitutes ‘best’ and most of us – I think – come down on the side of happy-healthy-loved.
I hope so.
I hope parents can go through that process and end up confident enough to know when enough is enough. I do wonder, however, if one of those words in the three that she cited—”happy”—can complicate and confuse our choices. To keep our kids happy, we may do more than we should, step in where we aren’t needed, or spend more than is necessary.
If we’re not careful, we can confuse our kids’ happiness with what’s truly best for them.
But is Bad Moms Club right? Is hyperparenting no longer an issue, a thing of the past? Are parents in these past few years truly relaxing and trusting that their kids are doing all right as long as their basic needs are met, ensuring happy-healthy-loved childhoods?
One person commenting on that same post at Bad Moms Club wasn’t so sure. She knew hyperparents who were alive and well:
Wow – well, I see quite of few of these helicopter parenting examples in my area. Parents sitting in the classroom with their kids to help them concentrate and work (1st grade). Lots of extra parents “volunteering” on the playground but really there to keep on eye on their child during recess. Telling them who they should or should not play with.
What do you think? Are parents feeling the strain to do all that they possibly can to speed their kids toward success, or are most parents in a good place, finding a healthy balance and a pace that frees their families to flourish?
Is the concern about hyperparenting much ado about nothing?
Read all of Bad Moms Club’s post “Hyper Parents And Helicopter Parents And Curler Parents, Oh My” HERE.
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